So we have the concept of twinness, the idea that we are attracted to those similar to us, so as Stephen Biddulph explains ‘people who differ on the surface but are very similar deep down, will be inexorably drawn into couple relationships.’ He continues, ‘you will be aware of your differences but your similarities will, for the most part, be unconscious.’
Biddulph’s argument is that we are born in a sense with natural gifts of clear intelligence, intuition, concentration, spontaneity, warmth, etc (this is a belief I have found shared from Liedloff to Rowe), but through the child-raising processes of the modern world (and I would argue other cultural and social facts) these abilities are often repressed by adults who find it too much, but our repression occurs differently with every individual, thus Biddulph suggests ‘we are attracted to people because they have activated certain qualities, which we also possess but in an unawakened state’. If you hold someone in great esteem it is because you have an untapped ability to be like that person. This, according to Biddulph includes the heroes we admire.
Now if we think of popular heroes then what comes to mind is the fact that Winston Churchill is often voted as some sort of greatest Britain, again and again. The worrying thing is this means that there are vast numbers of people who feel the need to be like him to be complete. Does this include his eugenicist beliefs then? (http://www.winstonchurchill.org – and for those who think this is a smear, sorry, these following quotes are from the official site) Does awakening their capacities involve being ‘in favor of the confinement, segregation, and sterilization of a class of persons contemporarily described as the “feeble minded?”‘ Are we to believe that a vast proportion of the population have an untapped capacity to believe that “The unnatural and increasingly rapid growth of the Feeble-Minded and Insane classes, coupled as it is with a steady restriction among all the thrifty, energetic and superior stocks, constitutes a national and race danger which it is impossible to exaggerate.” Are a large proportion of the nation trying to reach a place where “The improvement of the British breed is my aim in life.” People who are not whole because they are yet to regard “races as different, racial characteristics as signs of the maturity of a society, and racial purity as endangered not only by other races but by mental weaknesses within a race.”
Perhaps some lacking in our personalities might be better left unawakened…